How God Called Me to Navy Chaplaincy

Kit, Central Iraq, with a CENTCOM assigned Task Force, 2019.

Written By Lieutenant Commander Kristian L. Carlson

Kit Carlson has served alongside Marines, Sailors, Soldiers, & Special Forces, and has completed three deployments. In 2020, the Navy sent him to Duke University’s Divinity School to earn a specialized Master’s Degree, ThM, in Pastoral Care, where he focused his studies on challenges facing Active Duty personnel, Veterans and their families. His specific areas of interest include care for persons with Complex Trauma, strategies for healing from PTSD, Moral Injury, & mild TBI. A key personal mission of his is to leverage the strengths of faith-based Veteran Service Organizations as strategic partners to chaplains, the VA, and the DoD in their ongoing resiliency & suicide prevention initiatives. He is married to his Chilean sweetheart, Damaris. They have two young children, who are the delight of their hearts.

At sea, aboard USS Bunker Hill, with my much respected “big brother” Command Master Chief Jim Follmer (prior HTCM)

The initial moments are etched well in my memory. I’m writing from O’Hare airport in Chicago. It was here in this city that many of my hopes would coalesce culminating 27 SEP 2006 when I was commissioned an Ensign in the United States Navy as a Chaplain Candidate Program Officer, at Fort Leonard Wood Missouri. Then again 13 DEC 2011, I was commissioned as a 4100 Active Duty Chaplain at the Liberty Bell in Philadelphia. But here in Chicago is where it all began, at a Christian college, Trinity International University. I minored in Biblical Studies and majored in English Literature with a focus also in music.  11 SEP 2001 came:

James Allen: “Kit, dude, did ya see what just happened to the Twin Towers in NYC?” 

Me: “No. What?”

James Allen: “Dude, somebody just struck the towers with a jet. We’re going to war, man.”  

James was an Air Force veteran, a suitemate with me in the CIT dorm and a good friend. As a military dependent at the time, I heard firsthand the new security measures happening at Fort Rucker, Alabama where dad was installation Chaplain, there at the home of Army Aviation. And I heard straight from my sister Nora, what was happening in Okinawa, where my brother-in-law was Ops, then XO, at MWSS-172 as a Marine Officer.  Our worlds had dearly changed.  That day, my friend Christine and I rode the “L”, an above ground subway, to Downtown. We shared the love of Jesus on the trains with Chicagoans, prayed for people and spoke of taking courage in Christ.   Then we got off the “L” and went and sat still stunned, in solidarity with New York, on the steps of the Sears Tower. It was our way of taking in the shocking tragedy of people leaping from Tower windows to escape the flames and the horror of trembling doomed skyscrapers. And it was a way for us to say, “our God is Great. He is with us (Ps 46), and we are not afraid.” 

Fast forward. In 2004 I was teaching at a Christian High School in West Allis, Wisconsin, just outside of Milwaukee.  That November, on Election Tuesday, I stood on the corner of 35th and Oklahoma, on the city’s South Side and toted a Bush-Cheney sign to the chorus of naysaying cars driving by and folks flipping me “the bird.”  I did it because I believed in what President Bush wanted to accomplish in Iraq and Afghanistan. It was a response to 9/11. And a way to intervene in two fraught nations over-run by Al Qaeda Islamic terrorist networks and by a dictator, Saddam Hussein, who had flouted international sanctions and maybe even harbored WMD.  I share about Milwaukee because while I had longed to serve in the military, something crystallized in my heart that day, as I stood at some risk, by myself, in a deep blue city, campaigning for George W. Bush. Much in my heart was also related to his Pro-Life stance as opposed to John Kerry. But the critical nature of the president’s power to move the levers of Government and the prospective of continuing with God-fearing leadership captured my energy and hopes.

Less than two years later I was commissioned as a Navy Chaplain Candidate Program Officer (CCPO). While I had envisioned myself as a tentmaking missionary in the Arab World, perhaps teaching English, working as a Foreign Service Officer, or for the NGO Samaritan’s Purse, God had other plans. I left Milwaukee, and moved to Fort Leonard Wood where my dad, a mustang former Army Chaplain assistant, now Installation Chaplain and Colonel, was serving as the Maneuver Support Center Chaplain. 

Dad T, Harold T. Carlson, Hero.

While teaching was rewarding, and I did a good enough job to be invited back the next year ( I taught American Literature honors, Speech and Spanish to six sections –120 students!)…I still hadn’t fully landed on my “niche”, the vocation God would open to me. In fact, I was exhausted from working 70 – 90 hours a week and living alone in a small flat in the city, by myself, above the widowed homeowner. Mrs. Phyllis Huffman, my landlord, loved watching the musical Golden Age Hollywood movies. She wistfully spoke of her deceased husband, who was a plumber, but to her a Troubadour. He could sing beautifully and helped rear their beautiful family and loved her well. Looking back, spending time with Phyllis as a 24-year-old “green” teacher, I was “chaplaining”—shepherding– a lonesome, grief-stricken person, with the Comfort by which we ourselves are comforted (2 Corinthians 1:4). 

I left Wisconsin the summer of 2005 and landed at Fort Leonard Wood, where I sought respite and direction from the Lord for His calling on my life. Having recently done ministry work in Israel during the 2nd Intifada, and later also in formerly communist Romania in summers of 2002 and 2004, I continued to feel drawn to Missions, especially to Muslims.

My final big step toward chaplaincy happened in Fall 2005. A Colonel Chaplain (R), Skip, and his wife Dawn, parents of a medically retired Force Recon Marine, and of two missionary daughters to Turkey and Indonesia, asked me to begin leading music worship with them for a Bible Study of 200 Soldiers in Basic Training.  Many of the young Soldiers were heading to danger in the Middle East as Combat Medics, MPs, and “88 Mike” Truck Drivers, to serve during the Surge of forces designed by Generals Petraeus and McChrystal. It was called “COIN”, a counterinsurgency strategy to win hearts and minds, and build democracy among Iraqis and Afghanis.  I reluctantly said “Yes” to the Bible Study, but did not truly feel HOOAH enough to stand in front of Soldiers.  I liked occasionally smoking tobacco pipe and a Hookah, wearing Birkenstocks and hemp necklaces, playing guitar and reading classics like Dostoevsky and 20,000 Leagues Under the Sea. How would these hardened warriors receive me??

Dostoyevsky’s book is an all-time favorite of mine. Read at my Romanian American buddy, Viorel’s urging, in 2000. So glad he insisted. Moving novel.

But somehow they did. And 200 in the Battalion, quickly became nearly 1000 a week for three straight years. 

Baker Theater, Team Devotions, Fort Leonard Wood, Missouri, 2006

I became a contract musician leading worship for two Soldier services. Weekly I discipled Soldiers and led rehearsals, a band, and choir of 20 – 35 musicians. We gave out 7000 full OT and NT Bibles from the American Bible Society which I had requested. There is no sight or sound quite like hearing Baker Theater full of hoarse young Soldiers shouting and singing to Jesus in unity. Hands lifted up singing “Days of Elijah” and “Lord I Lift Your Name on High”; or to see them waving their USA patches in abandoned patriotism and resolve as we’d play Toby Keith’s “American Soldier” on the Theater’s loudspeakers.

Baker Theater Worship Time, 3rd Basic Combat Training Brigade Soldiers, “Fort Wood”, Mo. 2006

I was commissioned September 27, 2006, by COL Chaplain Dan Parker. My Dad led a commissioning prayer. I attended seminary, 2006-2009, at the AoG Seminary, and was mentored closely by COL CH (R) Scott McChrystal. I chose to shift endorsement from the EFCA to the AoG, and moved to East Hartford, CT to pastor and prepare for ordination. I served 29 months at a beautiful large church of 5000 called Crossroads Community Cathedral. Chaplain McChrystal facilitated the opportunity along with the AoG Seminary President, Byron Klaus.  

Special Mentors to Damaris and myself: Scott and Judy McChrystal. Along with my parents and the LaMerthas, there’s no example in our lives of a Chaplaincy couple that’s been more influential. They’ve written a great 6-set devotional: “Daily Strength for the Battle”

As I’m reflecting, I want to say that I didn’t get into chaplaincy ministry or leadership on my own. God used a team of wonderful women and men who mentored me and opened doors for me. And I want to point out to myself, that sustaining ministry in the future is something my wife and I can not do alone either.

Damaris and I were married in April 2010 and spent our first 18 months of marriage in New England. Precious times. From 2009 – 2011, in the spring and fall, I traveled 12 weeks, total, up and down the rivers and dirt roads of the Amazon, near Iquitos, Peru, sharing the Gospel alongside the Senior Pastor at Crossroads, Bishop Terry Wiles.  I translated annual ministry reports, from Spanish to English, of 70 pastors of La Selva, the Jungle, as they sought to grow in pastoral accountability and in God’s Word, through coursework our church offered.

Iquitos, Peru

​During those early years, as a Navy Chaplain Candidate Officer, working in the civilian world from 2006 – 2011, I often did the work of evangelism and discipleship, pioneering and collaborating. I frequently ledworship with guitar and voice. As I neared Active-Duty Chaplaincy I hadmore opportunities for pastoral leadership, leading a wedding, funeral, and preaching. From a young age I had been drawn to missions work,especially to the “10-40 Window” where many live with no near-neighbor witness of Jesus Christ as Savior. Through Chaplaincy, I wanted to serve the country the best way my gifts allowed. I wanted to do my part during the global war on Terror, and grow in leadership, discipline, and firm up my financial foundation for the future.  A deep part of me wanted to follow in my father’s footsteps and to make him proud. I believed it was a tremendous mission field all its own.

Having served in the Navy, now for nearly 19 years, I have been given so much by the Service and from my shipmates. Tours have taken me across the world to Cambodia, mainland Japan & Okinawa, Australia, Saipan, Guam, Hawaii, Qatar, Bahrain, Yemen, Djibouti, UAE, Iraq, Germany, and France. I’ve served three years with Marines (MCIPAC), had 2 deployments and spent 330 days, often on the high seas, aboard the Guided Missile Cruiser, USS Bunker Hill. 

Missile Launch from aboard Guided Missile Cruiser. Life changing experience being ship’s company for 3 years aboard CG-52. Love that crew.

Leading those 300 nightly Evening Prayers from the warship Bridge 1MC (intercom), I count a treasured gift. Most recently, I pursued the advanced education program, and earned a second Masters, ThM, fully funded, while in residence at Duke University. Following that I reported to “the Quarterdeck of Navy Medicine” the Hospital Corpsman Schoolhouse in San Antonio, Texas. Here, our command serves 5,500 Sailors a year, and trains 26 officer and enlisted medical specialties.

The stories of the U.S. Navy Hospital Corps is nothing short of incredible. Courage. Grit. Sacrifice. And love. John 15:13.

Growing up as a Chaplain’s son, and with a strongly Christ-honoring mother, ministry was the norm I knew in life. In that way, Navy Chaplaincy has not surprised me. But the sea-services cultures and mission have offered a thrilling ride–very different from my upbringing at Army bases across the US. During these 5 decades I have observed a precious commonality, how no matter the uniform, there’s something compelling about the humility, human needs, and yet valor of Americans who serve. They are heroes. They’ve committed their health, lives, and often their best years to war, defense of the weak, living in spartan environments, for marginal pay while enduring frequent family separation.

Many wonder if Chaplaincy is a “sell-out.” Perhaps a deal with the Devil because of pluralism. But I would answer that numerous chaplains and lay ministers of divergent beliefs, LDS, Muslim, Jewish, & Roman Catholic have refreshed and sharpened me. We have truly become friends, while all the time I continued to pray for their salvation in Christ. Dad taught me that in the United States, each of us, in Pluralism, has a right to a seat at the table. We respect those at the table, but also “own” who we are.  I have found that rather than barriers or constraints in the military, the doors have flung open, to be an ambassador for Jesus Christ.

At the same time, I’ve faithfully fulfilled my oath to our Constitution and my fellow Americans as a naval officer.  An aspect of Chaplaincy I love is the Pauline example to “be all things to all men” and to enculturate myself at each Command.  Practically it means I have worked to earn their respect and trust, by being with them, suffering through the good times and bad.  This Immanuel Factor ministry has opened many doors to naturally sharing my hope in Jesus Christ.

I will admit that I have suffered more in the Navy than I expected when I joined. I have known spiritual and emotional valleys very deep.  The separation from my wife on deployments, the missing of the birth and pregnancy of our first child; sending Americans home in body bags from Iraq; and witnessing war-ravaged parts of the world…these experiences have “seasoned me” and I feel changed.  

Pray for Scott & “Said’s” families & battle brothers. Brothers we lost in Iraq. Had the honor to lead their plane-side “dignified transfer” ceremony in Erbil & their memorial service, August 2019. I think about their sacrificial lives & stories so often.

If the Assemblies of God’s Chaplaincy Endorser leadership gave me window to speak to prospective Chaplains and families, I would tell them, “Look at the Fields. They are White unto the Harvest. Pray the Lord of the Harvest to send Laborers.”  I would also be honest with them, that the call, if they can avoid pitfalls of ego and careerism, will likely allow much suffering to affect their soul, both from the counseling space, and from our mission in war. But that Jesus Christ, is the Faithful Friend, familiar with grief. And as they walk out “Vocati Ad Servitium” ministry, that He will see them through.         

Written March 2025 at Newport Naval Station, Rhode Island. Assignment #1 from CDR, Dr. Ed Erwin, for Professional Naval Chaplaincy, Intermediate Leadership Class-25020. Letter to Your Religious Endorser, CAPT (R) James Denley.

If you have questions about Navy Chaplaincy contact me at striderk@yahoo.com. I will gladly put you in touch with multiple Chaplain Recruiter friends, and answer whatever questions I can.

Falling Out of Love: The Military & Marriage

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the Church & gave himself up for her

“οἱ ἄνδρες, ἀγαπᾶτε τὰς γυναῖκας ἑαυτῶν, καθὼς καὶ ὁ Χριστὸς ἠγάπησε τὴν ἐκκλησίαν, καὶ ἑαυτὸν παρέδωκεν ὑπὲρ αὐτῆς”

Paul to the Church in Ephesus, 62 CE

C4 Foundation Ranch Lodge
Family Retreat, near Julian, CA

One of the toughest sets of phone calls I ever received was from my best friend & his wife. He was deployed to Afghanistan with SPECWAR units doing HUMINT & counterinsurgency. They had been married a few years, and had an adorable little one. His wife was clearly shaken on the phone and in pain. She explained that my friend wanted a divorce. I had been in their wedding & grown up with him. They named a child after me. We were close. They were close. She had patched him back together and stayed by his side after traumatic injuries. She hoped I could talk to him & help.

I rang his phone, when we spoke, he was direct, “Kit, I fell out of love with Deb here in Kunar.”

C-130 on Mission, CENTCOM AOR. Thanks USAF.

Inside I was sad, stunned, grieved to my core. He had been honest, but I questioned his thinking. His emotions had shifted, but was love, & marriage itself, a feeling to be fallen out of?

Emotions can grow cold in relationships. Studies show that after about two years of marriage, the feeling of “newness” wears off. Physically the chemicals spiking our infatuation & all the butterflies recede. It is in this time that life with its dynamics, its “heavies” kicks in. It’s normal to ‘lose that lovin’ feeling’. But it’s not forever.

Another Day on the job. Marriage is dynamic. Nurturing it is harder and more rewarding than most of our work forward. CENTCOM AOR.

This is the moment to roll up our sleeves & really dig into the work -the wonder- of loving someone. The butterflies and excitement come back. A Team Guy recently told me, “the best part of marriage, Chaps, is companionship. I had to learn to give more of myself. I had to let myself depend on my wife—allowing that emotional closeness.”

They are twenty years into this adventure. You know what’s awesome? God cares a lot about the outcome, and is close in to help them, & all of us, to succeed.

The Carlson family connecting from Iraq to Virginia via FaceTime. Nurturing our love, one phone call , one letter, & email at a time.

Paul’s words to the Ephesian Church lift Christ’s supremacy above all competitors. He urges Christians to be different. In the early 60s CE, the Apostle wrote from a Roman prison to young believers in Ephesus. It was a wealthy, influential, west coast port city in Rome’s province of Asia—modern day Turkey. Home to the 7th Wonder of the World, the great Temple of Artemis was a bustling center of learning, which supported many outlying towns. The Ephesian theater seated 20,000!

Inspired by the Holy Spirit, Paul told them, “Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church & gave Himself up for her.” He laid out a way of relating that must have felt foreign to them. To the men, a challenging word, ‘your love should mirror Jesus Christ’s for the Church. For the church is His body. Love your wife as you love yourself. Sacrifice your will, your desires for her best. All the time, no matter what.’ He explained that wives were to respect their husbands & submit to their authority as husbands. For women, from a city dedicated to the feared goddess of the hunt, this was likely a hard pill to swallow.

‘Respect and submit to this man? How can I trust his decision-making & intentions?’

Honestly, this dynamic cannot work in the world. But among Christians it can. Why? Because both want what is best for the other. They both recognize they are equals made in God’s image. The wife, seeking to honor the Lord, yields place to her husband, to protect, honor & cherish her & the family, as Jesus would. The godly husband is locked-on to serve his family & seek his wife’s best & her counsel in all things. But he also ‘owns’ the moment with critical decisions affecting the family’s spiritual & physical well-being.

Think back to times you were deployed or separated from your partner due to operational requirements. Many of us were married, some engaged, many single. Today I share these thoughts with you, because I believe God wants each of us to elevate our belief about marriage, to align our covenantal promises with His truth. Ultimately He’s calling us to deepen our resolve to faithfully love our spouse for the long haul. The journey is an adventure, & the destination’s outcome: enduring love, trust, and half a century of memories & wins. Totally worth it.

Near Saipan en route to Arabian Gulf & 5th Fleet. We were 7 months pregnant with our child #1

For those considering marriage. I am excited for you. It’s also a great time to look UP, look ahead, & to God for discernment. Check in with wise older friends for counsel that’s specific to your life.

Marriage & family life is quite the Trip! With the Lord in the Center, you will make it!
Praying for you today. -Chaps KC

Follow On

• Go to a Marriage Retreat annually. Weekend to Remember does a great job. They hold retreats across the country. https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember/

Most Pastors of churches would love a call or text asking them what local workshops or retreats might be good for you.

• Marriage coaching or counseling is a gamechanger! Check in with your Unit Chaplain, Family Life Chaplain (Army) or CREDO Chaplain (USMC, NAVY, Coast Guard), or Base Chaplain (USAF/Space Force). You can also look for a Christian Counselor with an LPC, LCSW, LMFT license or a Biblical Counselor via Focus on the Families Network: https://www.focusonthefamily.com/get-help/counseling-services-and-referrals/

• If you want to listen to podcasts check out material from the Gottman Institute https://www.gottman.com , Love & Respect, with Dr. Emerson Eggerichs has excellent webinars & regular content updates, https://www.loveandrespect.com also TWJ.org features a podcast with my sister and her husband a retired Marine, Nora White and LtCol. Danny White. They are a blended family who overcame the traumatic auto accident death of Danny’s previous spouse & two children: https://thewarriorsjourney.org/podcast/episode-75/

• 4 Book Recommendations:

The 5 Love Languages Military Edition

Sacred Marriage

His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair Proof Marriage

Daily Strength for the Battle (Vol. 3): Building Resilient Marriages & Families

**Names & Locations were altered to protect confidentiality

With my “Chilena”, Dámaris. Pray for us, 14 years, 7 months, 10 days married! We’re praying for y’all.

About Blog Author:

Kit Carlson has served alongside Marines, Sailors, Soldiers & Special Forces, and has completed three deployments. In 2020, the Navy assigned him to Duke University’s Divinity School to earn a specialized Master’s Degree, ThM, in Pastoral Care, where he focused his studies on challenges to Active Duty personnel, Veterans and their families. His specific areas of interest include care for persons with Complex Trauma, strategies for healing from PTSD, Moral Injury, & mild TBI. A key personal mission of his is to leverage the strengths of faith-based Veteran Service Organizations as strategic partners to chaplains, the VA, and the DoD in their ongoing resiliency & suicide prevention initiatives. He is married to his Chilean sweetheart, Damaris. They have two young children, who are the delight of their hearts.

DID YOU EVER LOVE HIM WELL

Written by Uncle K, 1/26/24, for Joey’s Mom.

You loved him hard
You loved him swell
Did ya ever love him well


That tramp he jumped it hard
Jumped it deep
And chuckled his Mama out to freak


You loved him wide
You loved him deep
Did you ever love him well!


His soul to keep
You loved him well
You taught him life at Jesus’ feet


You saw him tease
He danced a beat
Wow you n Davy loved him sweet!


You loved him wise
You loved him great
You loved him morning, noon & night


I can’t go on
The rhythms the song
Too much this chasm’s beyond


Come back son Joey
Run, we WANT you here
You Godly sprite!!


Oh We’ve loved ya hard
we loved you deep
Twinkling Joey Showy–with you


And your Mama, let’s meet There.

There.
Bye and o’er the Bye


Bring us back God,
to Joseph that we know.
Cause we miss ya.


Alida-she loves you well
Yes, she loves you deep
With wordless cries, calls out to Deep

Oh she loves you well.

KLC, 26 JAN 24, i miss you buddy, From S.A., TX

Written by Mom
1/25/24

Joseph Bernhard Arnegard ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
5/11/05-1/25/22

I honor you my wonderful son, my incredible Joey. You, with your dimple from heaven, you with your unforgettably pretty blue/green eyes, you with your distinctive mole, your handsome self, my strong, tall, long legged son.

I am so glad God gave you to me. It’s been two years since the day you went home to heaven.

I wonder, was I a good enough mom to you Joey? Did I tell you enough and show you enough how wonderful you were? Did I listen enough? Did I praise you often enough? Did you know what a cute baby you were? Did you know how amazing your smile was? Did you know how much I liked having you tease me & get my attention?! Did you know how sweet it was for me to see you adoring our pups, kitties, baby ducks, chicks and goats?

Did you know you had a knack for making people around you feel important? Noticed? Celebrated? Did you know you had a way of making the little everyday things explode into a party; A pizza! A deck of cards! Snacks! A frisbee! A basketball! A soccer ball and a park? A pool? With you, life felt like a celebration! You worked hard and then you played hard. You knew how to have fun!! You knew how to love!! You cared genuinely from the heart. You really prayed. You ached. You quietly lived what was in your heart. No fanfare. No trumpets. You were loyal. You were willing. You were a team player. We will never stop missing you. We grieve that we have recently finally accepted the sad reality that Joey, you are not coming back to make our life bright with your “Joey-ness”. You indelibly left your mark and we honor you and your life and we thank Jesus for sending you to us Joey for 16 3/4 years and saving you at a young age. We celebrate you Joey. This world was a much better place because of you. ❤️❤️❤️
Love, Mom

At the Funeral home in Watford City, about to hug your body, & pray & sing with your Mom, and Auntie Annalisa & Baby Caroline. 1/28/22
With your Eldest Sis, Kristina McGorman

Joey Bernhard Arnegard, 16, of Watford City, N.D., passed away Tuesday, Jan. 25, 2022, in an automobile accident in Watford City, N.D. He was born in Eden Valley, Wyo., on May 11, 2005. His Great Aunt Jinny Carlson was the Doula who assisted at his home birth. To his mother, Joey was her desert boy. He was the fifth of seven children born to Reverend David and Alida Arnegard during the time David pastored the Eden Valley for Jesus Evangelical Free Church.
Joey seemed to have been born with a twinkle in his deep blue eyes, a brilliant mind, and an adventurous spirit. He had strong, steady hands that were always busy; whether he was holding a Rubik’s Cube, a paintbrush, playing the piano, dribbling a basketball, or holding a hand of cards. He had a passion for solving complicated puzzles and loved learning algorithms. His desk held his collection of the many Rubik’s cubes he had formed into various shapes and patterns. His family loved listening to him play the piano and he often learned new songs and solo pieces he heard in music and movies. Joey always impressed his family by his ability to paint a picture so full of reflection, smart angles, and color. His art is greatly treasured by his family. Come rain or shine, wind or snow, Joey would be shooting hoops out on the gravel driveway of the Arnegard home. He was always looking for ways to improve his form and accuracy. He practiced hard and his family and friends loved cheering him on as he improved over the years.
Joey was a thrill seeker and looked forward to camping trips, long hikes, and spontaneous summer lake days. All he needed was a pack of matches and flip flops and he was ready to go. Rain or shine, it was lake time.
Every year, Joey looked forward to long youth trips and noisy bus rides with his friends – always full of funny stories and inside jokes to tell when he got home. When he was not so busy, Joey would often be found at a table dealing out a hand of Rook or setting up a board game for the family. Since Joey loved games of strategy, the Arnegards knew when they started a game of Dutch Blitz, Settlers of Catan, Chess, or Ticket to Ride, there was a 9 in 10 chance that Joey would win.
His clever mind was well balanced by his reassuring smile and love of animals. Joey loved the family puppy, Willow, and he would spend many hours calling her nicknames, like “Wit, Wheezy, or Pup,” only he could come up with while welcoming her into the house with hugs and words of adoration. If there was a baby or small animal in sight, it would be in Joey’s arms. He had such a love for baby goats, ducklings, chicks, kittens and puppies.
Joey never got to experience being an uncle, but he was a role model and master of fun to all of his younger cousins and siblings at each family gathering.
Joey loved his family in a teasing way. He was the king of nicknames for all. He would show love to his family with gentle pats on the head, linking arms during a movie, and hugs, no matter how old he got. Joey made sure to always say, “I love you,” and was a friend to each one of his siblings.
Joey made his family laugh more than anything and his voice brought joy to their home. He fully won the hearts of his parents, siblings and friends and he was adored and cherished by each of them.
His deep love for God was reflected in his joy in Jesus which shone brightly in his contagious smile and his mischievous blue eyes. He truly spread a mantle of intentional kindness and Godly selflessness wherever he went.
Returning from an insanely successful ‘shoot around’ with his beloved team members and friends, black ice caused Joey’s Avalon to careen out of control. He was hit by a semi truck after he lost control of the vehicle.
On Tuesday morning, Jan. 25, Joey Arnegard went to be with Jesus.
The many who mourn his passing include his parents, David and Alida Arnegard; his siblings, Kristina, (Cole), Clara, Dorothy, Oskar, Oliver and Judah.
He is also mourned by Grandparents, Cameron and Mary Susan Arnegard; Uncles, (Spencer) Simmons, Matt Arnegard, and Iver Arnegard; and dear Aunties, Ruth Frank and Virginia Arnegard.
On his mother’s side, Grandfather Harold Timothy Carlson and ‘Mor Mor’ Judy Raye Carlson mourn him; along with Aunties, Elnora White, (Danny), Elizabeth Carlson, Annalisa Shamberger (Justin); and Uncles, Kristian (Damaris) and Nels (Jordan) Carlson.
He is mourned by 28 maternal cousins and 4 paternal cousins; and Great-Great Paternal Cousin, Gen Bruins; Great-Great Maternal Auntie, Marilyn Carlson; and Great Maternal Aunties, Ruth, Marilyn Aronson, (David); and Great Uncles, Richard (Jinny) Carlson, David (Virginia) Carlson, Bruce (Ann) Carlson, and Chuck (Nicole) Carlson; along with other beloved relatives who each grieve deeply his sudden passing.
This world is truly not our home and now, ‘He is finally home!’
“Our Dearest and Brightest Joey! Joey! Joey!!!, we shall meet again!” because of Jesus and thankfully we do not grieve as those who have no hope. As Grandpa Cameron so lovingly expressed,

“Taken in his prime.

Mercifully it was swift.

He was the Best of us.”

Oh how we miss you, our dearest “Joey Showey.” Joey’s Funeral Service will be held on Wednesday, Feb. 2, 2022. at 11 a.m. at the Watford City Assembly of God Church, 2117 Main Street, Watford City. Pastor Sheldon McGorman will be officiating. Visitation was held at Fulkerson-Stevenson Funeral Home of Watford City on Tuesday, Feb. 1, 2022, from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m.
The Funeral Service will be live-streamed; you can view Joey’s service directly on his obituary page at the website http://www.fulkersons.com

https://www.watfordcitynd.com/obituaries/joey-arnegard/

Hear about Joey’s life & what his Grandpa Tim Carlson, COL US Army Chaplain, has to say to those saying an earthly farewell. “Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints” Grandpa Tim’s words begin at 27:42 in the video.

https://www.youtube.com/live/zUY2474iA_o?si=5sXRuxsmNHHBPTri

*Start the above YouTube video at 1 hour 9 minutes and 22 seconds to hear amazing songs & see videos and pics of Joey’s life